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AN INSIGHT TO MOTHERHOOD – the joy of every mum

• Ex- President Obama in Daily Beast publication on July 8, 2014 is absolutely correct that ensuring work is compatible with motherhood is essential.

• Patton essentially argues that women are making a mistake by putting their careers before marriage and motherhood as gathered from Daily Beast publication in March 12, 2014.

British dictionary defines MOTHERHOOD as the state of being a mother and/or the qualities characteristics of a mother.

Motherhood is a gift to every woman although due to one or two circumstances, it is not a privilege enjoyed by all. We are faced with numerous challenges which have posed deadly risks to chances of being a mother. Although some could be attributed to consequences of our actions during our youth/teen. Whether a pregnant teen plans to have an abortion, place her baby up for adoption, or tackle the challenge of motherhood, it is important to have the knowledge necessary to make an informed decision about an unplanned pregnancy.

We are faced with different challenges as an individual and we also tackle those challenges differently, hence it should be key to knowing that an unplanned pregnancy is like a volcanic eruption that spoils anything it comes in contact with, be it education or career. Sex education should be encouraged in our schools and cognisant examples on dangers it (abortion) can cause should be drawn for clarification. There is joy in motherhood but this joy lies beneath and could be experienced only when all factors are met. These factors could be said to be determinants of its existence but are also dependent on whom/who you are.

As a woman in active service (I.e a career woman), she is faced with challenges such as having to quit her job to embrace motherhood (in organisation that don’t employ nursing mothers) while as a student, you will be forced out of classroom to attend to your child. The question then is; WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO EMBRACE MOTHERHOOD?

So long you are an adult in marriage, you are ready, except you are faced with some life – threatening issues that poses great risk to getting pregnant. Although you should strike an equilibrium between your job/schooling and motherhood. Motherhood calls for a lot of challenges and so you should brace up yourself for the task that lies ahead. You should also strive for your baby’s existence, sustenance and upbringing. You should drop/quit a lot of bad habits and inculcate into yourself the good qualities a mother should possess.

As a teenager, you should first strive to get a good education before marriage/motherhood or in the absence of that, learn a craft that can at least sustain your family through a combined effort from your spouse. This has so many benefits as it is said – train a woman, raise a nation. The importance of girl-child education cannot be overemphasized as the family stands as the first community a child is exposed to and from statistics, a child spends an average of 30 hours daily and 70% of his infancy with the mother. As a mother, you can’t give what you don’t have and so to impact knowledge into your child, you must seek knowledge too.

The ties between a mother and child is divine and dates back to our first parents as recorded in the holy books. The joy of every mother is to be alive to bring forth her baby having carried the baby for 9months/more.
As a career woman, putting your career before motherhood could pose a long term risk. There is a supposed cycle every woman falls into by virtue of their age and this cycle poses a threat to determining her eligibility of being pregnant at some certain stages in life and so embracing motherhood when and as at due will give you an edge to living older, fulfilled and then enjoying the fruit of your labour.

ADVICE TO GOVERNMENT AND AUTHORITIES

Government and private firms should encourage work-motherhood compatibility by abolishing those laws that inhibits the right of a woman to career after delivery. This has been abolished in some countries but some are yet to follow suit.

Private organisations are key violators of such right and so they should kindly adopt this system and encourage the divinity of motherhood.

AGAINST ALL ODDS

All along I have been procrastinating on when I will resume my blogging once again but each time what goes through mind is ‘who blogging epp’?. One voice would not stop whispering to me ‘the worth of a man is more observed when he is gone’;but hey, who wants to die? Nobody I guess. That’s not the contextual meaning of that phrase though, I thought to myself as I gathered more courage and pick up my pen to write.

I love writing and imagining things and as some great men once said ‘a heart that thinks is no match with where his legs can take’. This goes to say that majority of our great men who have passed on did not even live to achieve what they had dreamt, thought, imagined and worked towards; of course this could be justified by science and so many technology in vogue now. They were invented by men who did not even live to see the moderations these technologies advanced into even though it’s possible they dreamt it.

I have been distorted in my thinking about life in the past due to some circumstances surrounding me but I have grown even stronger to believing that what seems a mirage can exist. Remember, life they say is not a bed of roses.

Often a times we are faced with difficulties and ways to manage them would seem impossible. Living a life of total fulfillment takes the grace of God. The economic situation of the country coupled with the financial meltdown of the economy is a great challenge for an ordinary man in our world of today. Our youths Indulge themselves in frivolous activities to make ends meet and some either meet their untimely death, imprisoned or live a wasted life. Our government is not helping matters rather they are turning deaf ears on the cries of the poor masses.

There are so many minds in this country waiting to be discovered and given the chance to prove their worth but the government remains adamant. Most of our citizens are doing well in the diaspora and most of them have offered to bring home their innovations but what do they get, a country with a biased economy not ready to welcome their initiative. They make rules that only favour their existence. They make laws and break it because nobody can question them and later they use the children of the poor masses to perpetuate evil in the society. We all need to be enlightened of the dangers surrounding political hooliganism, political thuggery and mesmerism/abusiveness of political right.

It’s election time again and alot has been said about exercising your political will and power through voting but most people won’t. I know what’s on your thought, ‘who will emerge winners has already been decided you think’. Well, politics is a dirty game and we all know but if you do your part and I play my part, we will eradicate that corruption to a great extent. Imagine you register and pick up your PVC (voters card) and you educate people around you to do so; then you advise your children to estrange from being used as political thugs during this election; then lastly come out to vote for the candidate of your choice on election day, we are a step ahead of getting to where we are headed.

Same applies to our offices and various government organizations where Corruption has eaten deep like a canker worm. Getting a job is no longer by your intelligence nor scope of study rather its by your ability (what can you give) and who you know. That is why you see our graduates roaming around the streets with good grades, going from one interview to the other yet not employed but it’s a different issue for the affluence. ‘No mind is an island’ and so we should desist from thinking that all those street urchins have no dreams. If given the opportunity, they can even be inventors. Our people work hard but it’s so unfortunate that success is not measured by how hard you work nor how smart but it by the grace of God.

Asides that I give kudos to all hardworking men and women out there who are making ends meet legitimately even in the harsh economic situation of our country and still having hope that tomorrow will be better, I enjoin you to keep it up and know that someday, it will be better but please endeavour to pick up your PVC and come out to vote for the right candidate of your choice.

God bless us!
God bless our country!
Amen.

The harmful effects of sleeping in a Bra

Wearing of the bra while sleeping could be so harmful to the health of women folks and this has been discouraged by some health practitioners.

A bra is worn to support the brsts, provide modesty and increase the sense of security a women feels. It temporarily affects the shape of the brsts, such as uplifting them to create a cleavage.
In the 1930s, a boyish look was fashionable, so bras were worn to flatten the chest. For larger women, it also provides welcome control. However, there has been a strong dialogue about the harmful effects of wearing a bra, especially during sleep.

(1) Restlessness

Wearing a bra can be irritating for some women at the best of times, so sleeping could enhance this feeling. Women who sleep on their back may feel the bra catch press into their skin, causing discomfort. An underwire bra could also dig into the underside of the chest tissue, causing scratching or red grooves. The effect of these problems is waking through the night and continuous discomfort.

(2) Weakened Ligaments

Although support is a primary reason to wear a bar, it can actually be adverse to a woman’s health. The brsts do not develop strong ligaments because they do not take the weight of their own load. Therefore, brsts can sag more if a bra is constantly worn. If the bra is worn both day and night, the br**sts do not have the opportunity to use the ligaments at all, and this worsens the problem.

(3) Cancer

The book “Dressed to Kill,” published in 1995, suggested that a bra inhibits lymphatic drainage, increases chest temperature and levels of prolactin. Consequently, the authors Singer and Grismaijar proposed that this increases the risk of a woman developing cancer.

However, Louise Brinton at the National Cancer Institute suggests this is not a viable, scientific explanation because it is does not relate to endogenous hormone levels that are associated with cancer. Therefore, although disputed, some thinkers believe that wearing a bra contributes to cancer, and wearing it all the time would increase this risk.

(4) Excess Sweat

Being sweaty is a side effect of wearing a bra to bed. The extra material and padding stifles the air flow around the skin and consequently can make a woman abnormally hot and sweaty. This can cause itching and discomfort to the wearer. Women who do sleep in a bra should make sure it is made from a breathable fabric like cotton.

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Wenger agrees two-year contract with Arsenal

Despite series of fans’ protests calling for the exit of Arsenal boss Arsene Wenger, the Frenchman has agreed a new two-year contract, extending his 21-year reign at the club.
Wenger’s contract was set to finish at the end of the current campaign, but will now remain Arsenal manager until at least 2019.

This is coming few days after the Gunners won the English FA Cup after beating Chelsea 2-1 at Wembley Stadium.

On Monday, Wenger and club owner Stan Kroenke met to determine the Frenchman’s future, and their decision was relayed to club directors at a Tuesday board meeting.

As it stands, Arsenal are planning to make an official announcement on Wednesday.

The Gunners finished fifth in the Premier League this season, the first time they have finished outside the top four hence missing the UEFA Champions League in 20 years.

Antonio Conte Wins Manager Of The Year Award.

Chelsea manager, Antonio Conte, has been named Premier League Manager of the Year by the League Managers Association (LMA).
Cont clinched the Premier League title in his first year in English football and could make it a classic double, if they beat Arsenal in Saturday’s FA Cup final.

Last year’s winner, Claudio Ranieri, was the first foreign manager to win the prize, since Arsene Wenger in 2003/2004.

“I’m living a lot of incredible emotions in my first season in England,” Conte said at the ceremony.

“I want to thank people for voting for me. I love to accept this.

“It’s fantastic to read all of these names who have won this trophy. It’s a great achievement for me and I hope to continue in the best way and deserve this award.”

Man. Utd possible signing in the summer window

It looks like Manchester United are getting ready to spend big again this summer in an effort to compete for their first league title since Sir Alex Ferguson left the club.

Jose Mourinho has made no secret that he is prioritising the Europa League final as a pathway into the Champions League and this will of course help to attract the calibre of player that the United fans here at the Tavern are accustomed to seeing at the Theatre of Dreams.
Our landlord – like Caracol Radio – seems to be sure that Real Madrid’s James Rodriguez is on his way to Manchester. There’s no doubting his skills, and with the first team football he’d get at United he could take the Premier League by storm.

With money to spend and ambition to match, there is plenty of speculation as to who could be joining the Colombian maestro at Old Trafford in the summer. But where does Mourinho need to strengthen and add depth?

Don Balon has mentioned this one recently. There has been plenty of chatter about where Griezmann will go should he leave Atletico Madrid. We would love to see the talented French forward grace the Premier League and the opportunity to join his international teammates Pogba and Martial may just be the edge United need to attract him.
Too many times this season Man United have struggled to break down some of the smaller teams in the league, but with the creativity and dynamism Griezmann would bring to their front line, Mourinho’s boys will have a bit more of a cutting edge to their attack.

The Independent has reported this one recently. It may take another world record transfer fee but it would be a very big statement indeed if Gareth Bale was to head back to the Premier League. There’s not much else left for him to win at Real and the lure of a return to England may be too much for Welsh forward to turn down

Bale is a proven Premier League superstar and would help make United great again. His wing wizardry and lethal long range shots will excite the Old Trafford faithful and strike fear into any opposition

DISGUISE AMIDST MATURITY

Maturity is a state of being observed and seen to be behaving and thinking in a sensible, adult manner. As it is popularly said, age is not a criteria used in measuring one’s level of maturity but it acts as a clause in terms of exposure and experiences you get in life. 
Disguise on the other hand is a state at which you change your appearance so that people cannot recognise you. To make it at some stages in life, you have to Disguise. Although the game of achieving an aim amidst Disguise has been mistaken for FAKE. 

Being fake ain’t disguising, it simply means one is not proud of what or who he/she is. You can Disguise to be fake to achieve an aim but you can never be originally fake and call that a form of Disguise. Maturity is adopted in virtually all areas of life ranging from relationships, intelligence level, mission orientation, aim accomplishment, anger management, human interaction, speech utterances, leadership, daily conducts and so on. 

Disguise can also be termed “Character cloning”. It’s temporary and don’t stand the test of time. Maturity is real, can’t be hidden, stands the test of time and is a major tool in attaining life upmost heights. 

RELATIONSHIPS
Disguise in a relationship never supports but rather crumbles it. Pretending to be who you are not passes a wrong signal to your partner who is out believing you for whom he/she thinks you are. Being real and adopting some level of maturity boosts a relationship. As a matured individual, you overlook so many things in a relationship not because you can’t react but because of your level of understanding, you just have to let go. 100% of successful relationships are built on trust which is an end product of MATURITY. Just as gold has to pass through fire before it glitters, so also Alot of sacrifices are made towards having having a perfect relationship. “it takes two to tangle” and so maturity must be balanced before it yields success in a relationship. A nagging wife can never make a good home and so is an irresponsible man. In displaying some forms of maturity, the sacrifices one make triggers some sense of understanding and goes a long way to put things in place. Disguise in a relationship could be side-lined to a factor that poses at correcting a deformity with the main aim of coming back to your original self when the plan is successful. In other words, you can Disguise to save your relationship but not taking advantage of your partners weakness. 

INTELLIGENCE 
“Before you catch a thief, you need to think like a thief”; That’s intelligence. In a class for the intelligentsia, the smartest would pose a Disguise to stand out and that distinguishes it from the rest. This is achieved through Disguise. Maturity goes a long way in facilitating your level of intelligence while intelligence is not a measure of maturity. “Passing your grades is not passing your senses”.. . . . .. . Leonard. They are 2(two) parallel line that could only meet if and only if you show some level of maturity with intelligence. Intelligence is applied in several other aspects of human existence such as forensic research, criminal investigation, scientific research, modern research and invention, politics and sports to mention but a few. 

ANGER MANAGEMENT 
” The enemy you know they say is better than the angel you don’t know”. That’s Disguise for you. Anger is a very strong feeling you harbour deep within you when something happens that you feel is bad or unfair. Level of tolerance in individuals varies ranging from various levels of maturity. Age has nothing to do with a level at which one displays some form of anger. Instead as you advance in age, it is supposed that you also advance in maturity and have some form of tolerance towards anger. Disguise could be inculcated when angered and it could be termed maturity only when it’s positive. Pretence is not maturity when angered but a form of camouflage. This is very lethal most especially when you don’t know what your opponent harbours / plans in mind for you. And so, you have to be wise and smart in reading people’s mind / actions to determine why they sometimes act the way they do. A more explained article on anger management will come later in the episodes. 

Other aspects which include human interaction, speech utterances, leadership, daily conducts and so on requires maturity and some forms of Disguise because you don’t know who lies beside you, what they have in mind or what action they want to take. 

PHILOSOPHY OF SIGHT – its significance and relevance

   

The sight as we all know is one of the most excellent organs every human possesses even the blind.  Many theories and statistics have proven that a blind has applied more relevance to sight and to some extent, sees more. This is achieved through PERCEPTION and is an aspect of an individual’s mind which is rarely used by many or say not well utilised. INTERNAL PERCEPTION tells us what is going on in our bodies, where our limbs are, whether we are sitting or standing, whether we are depressed, hungry, tired and so forth. This internal perception is guided by an unseen but yet felt sight which is strongly imbedded into all humans and has its existence way before we opened our eyes to the world. It’s the internal sight that shows a baby strange thing before it happens and prompts them to cry. Also it can be applied in some other aspects of our life as adults in these various ways:

IMAGINATION

The kind of face you make when imagining what is going on in your mind is a result of what your inward sight sees. I have written about “subconscious mind” in one of my articles “THE STRENGHT OF THE MIND” and I faintly spoke about the significance of sight. The strength of sight can greatly be felt while imagining. The physical eyes at this juncture are internally blind while the internal sight is actively at work. It is this perception that enables you relate to your mind & brain and then you see a mirage which is just a mere illusion but also a close assumption to what you foresee. This process gives rise to particular mental state (cognitivism) and often makes you take some actions (radical behaviourism).

VISION

The strength of the sight (internal) is a tool in keeping you in line according to your purpose in life. Your destiny is determined by you and the action and strength you put into its achievement is anchored by your effective use of sight. It acts as a pilot, instructor and a means of encouragement even when you deviate from the path. It’s the internal sight that enables you see yourself in a near future and then motivate you towards achieving that dream. A lot of people these days are blind internally and “blindness in mind is blindness out of sight”. The saying that “there is ability in disability” is achieved through perception (internal sight) and that is why no one is restricted to making it in life. If you have not opened your internal eyes to things happening around you or in things you do in life, this is an avenue to initiating that.

DREAMS

This is a very important point i would like all to pay maximum attention to. We must first of all note that there is a big difference between DREAMS and ILLUSION. Illusion is a false idea or belief, especially about somebody or about a situation while dream is a series of images, events and feelings that happen in your mind while you are asleep. Most people have illusions while sleeping but term it dream and that is why lot of fake prophecies are rampant these days. The rightful definition of dream is, series of images, events and feelings that happen in your subconscious mind while you are asleep and you have NO COGNITIVE CONTROL over it. Illusion on the other hand can be controlled. A kind of dream which you can control even while in the process is a mere illusion which can take place even with your eyes opened. That is why people make lots of imagination and assume they have a dream. When you have a dream, there is an end to it but an illusion has neither distinctive start nor end. The ability of remembering/seeing a dream is done by the internal sight. It’s the internal sight that sees the dream while the outward sight (eyes) lives it.

DECISION MAKING

The strength of sight can be seen in our day to day activities. We make decisions everyday and we are responsible for the actions we take. Before a decision is taken, 5 (five) processes takes place. They include:

1. The eyes (outward sight) serve as a channel for data influx into the subconscious mind.

2. The mind deliberates on the action to be taken by sending a signal to the brain.

3. The brain looks for facts and fictions and then relates to the internal sight.

4. The internal sight looks in various directions for the best decision to take. This is where positive decision taking and negative decision taking comes to place and when a conclusion has been reached,

5. The last process is action (radical behaviourism).

EXAMINATION 

The significance of sight is very crucial in this aspect albeit it cannot work alone but with the mind. It’s a key role to many successes and achievement the world has recorded. A STRONG WILL works with perception and perception is best practiced as a listener. Attentiveness cannot be over emphasized as it works with the subconscious mind. That is why it is important to be attentive always. While in exam hall, the internal sight brings forth a clearer view to what you have read or listened to while in class and enables you to choose the right option for the question. The sight is also relevant in extensive reading and it enables the reader see a third meaning to what he or she is reading; more so give room for fundamental research and classical mind development.

The philosophy of sight should therefore be taken as a pragmatic approach to vast contrasting issues and cognizance of sight as a tool to its realisation should be consciously taken note of. 

THE STRENGTH OF THE MIND

The mind is a tool that can make and destroy. It is guided subconsciously by its thought and believes. The strength of a mind can never be under estimated. It houses the will and urge to do and not to do. From birth, a mind is nothing but a new empty system filled with integrated chips ready to read and be read.  
The mind has no limits to what it can imagine except it’s being restricted from such imaginations. It’s a strong tool that has no limit or a form of selection to what it takes in and so a lot care needs to be taken when the mind is at work.  What ever it decides has a very strong implication to a step one takes in life. The mind is correlated in its activity by that of the sight and reasoning. What ever the mind harbours is what it will definitely work with no matter the time it takes,  it must accomplish it’s aim.  It’s just like a  rocket launched;it has been programmed to hit a target but it will take a period of time to reach its target.  Same theory applies to the mind. As we grow up,  Alot is being inculcated into our minds and those orientation are integrated directly into our memory chips and as sticky as it is, it stays and remains there till death.  Just like an ibo adage says, “you don’t learn to use left hand when you are old if you are right-handed”. That’s also why it is said in the Holy books that “you train up a child the way he should go and when he grows, he will never depart from it”. 

A child that his parents were murdered right before his eyes would grow up with that dilemma and vengeance would definitely not be far from his mind. He might also be accustomed to being a perpetrator of evil because to him,  the world is wicked.  

Further illustrations can be drawn from other happenings around us. A child that is brought up being pampered will know nothing about pain till the day he faces one. Our child should be taught the ethics of life and orientated that this life is not a bed of roses. A child that is being over protected also falls in same category. A worst case is that of parents protecting their kids when they commit a bad deed, they do so trying to spare the rod meanwhile spoiling the child. Such children will be brought up thinking committing crime is a normal phenomenon till the day they are caught. 

Our minds are very tricking in their operation and unknowing to our own very self. It is very hard for the mind to be controlled by the will and reasoning but it is very easy for the mind to override the activity of the whole self.  The sight is a very strong tool working concurrently with the mind as it serves as a portal of entry for the information’s the mind conceives. That is also why it is said that every man has two physical eyes and one strong inner eye. We should be very careful at what we look and quickly read a positive reading to what we see else the mind gives it an appropriate meaning.  

Another tool that assists the mind is the sense of hearing.  Some times the eyes is not active but the activeness of the ear picks up the information and the ever ready mind quickly reads a meaning to what the ear relates to it. It is very important we control what we hear or choose between what enters our ear at any certain time.  
The minds strength is such that it makes up half news into a whole information and reads a meaning to it. It relates the result to the subconscious reasoning and then to the brain and before u know it, a deed is committed. It also has the capacity to harbour an information over a period of time and provides it unknowingly to you at the right time it’s of need for proper action to be taken. That’s why it is easy for someone to forgive his enemy but very hard to forget. It’s the work of the subconscious mind. 
The mind is also a strong asset in the education sector as most calculation works are done with the mind.  It serves as a slate where you do your rough calculations even while looking at your neighbour. It is also a two way tool that has the strength of relating information while receiving information too. It activity cannot be stopped till the heart stops beating but it’s modus operandi can be maneuvered based on the form of orientation it gets. While you sleep,  it’s your mind that works with your self and that’s why you dream and know that if you remain on bed, you will be late for work because it has been programmed.  

The brain only helps it to think, they both work side by side but while you sleep, your Brain sleeps but your mind don’t.  That’s why sometimes you are able to relate happenings around you to a particular dream you had some years back. 

“The brain codes a segment of your dreams while you sleep and your mind relates it to you while you wake as a step to actualising it in reality”  Leonard