Focus means alot to different people. It depends on which aspect of life you choose to adopt it. We all are guided by our subconscious mind and we tend to see things from different perspective. There are so many ways to keep focus and there are also many reasons or factors people loose focus.
It’s not easy in life as we all know but in other to achieve that which is expected, you have to go extra miles to live up to it. At some point in our lives, we tend to loose focus due to some factors that can or cannot be overlooked. A child’s upbringing and his moral background has a large role to play in this aspect. A child could come from a very good home and yet be influenced by peers. Such child might even be of good conduct at home but put on the skin of a wolf the moment he steps out. The parents have alot to do in our society of today.
Societal influence and the economic situation of the country poses a lot of threat to keeping focus in life. A society guided by corrupt leaders would yield a negative influence on the youths. Statistics shows that 40% of a country’s population is made up of the youth while the remaining sixty is shared between the children & the aged and so the progress of a nation rests solely on the youth. The youths have to keep up with focus and the government also has a role to play by providing the necessary requirements for an economic growth and stability.
In the presence of all these factors mentioned, the youth a times still loose focus due to so many factors. Some of which will be highlighted here.
==PEER GROUP INFLUENCE:
As a child grows, he is exposed to the society and he tends to pick up so many vices, whether good or bad and guided by them. Most of the bad atrocities we read on our dailies are as a result of peer group influence. Children pick up bad habits easily because of the kind of friends they move with and the kind of exposure they get from the Internet; as the popular adage goes, “show me your friends and I will tell you who you are” . The school is the main ground where they learn bad habits. It’s in school most children learn disobedience, how to smoke, how to practise hooliganism, prostitution, robbery, watch pornography, cultism, Internet fraud, and so many others you know. This in the long run makes them a bad figure in the society as they play truancy, ensnare and hibernate themselves from people. Most of our parents pay no attention to their children when they return from school, they just provide them with money when ever they demand without knowing what they actually do with it. As a parent, when last did u go through your child’s books to check his or her performance. When last did u visit their school to know if at all he attends school and his conduct in school. When last did u go through his or her phone to check for some exhibits as they call it. This is a role the parents has to play in other to check mare the conducts of their children.
This has been a major hub where bad habits are learnt. We tend to adopt the culture of life of other people who have different beliefs as us and in the long run, we tend to go extra mile in other to stand out; thus end up loosing focus. There has been a lot of debate on this and it has been clearly confirmed that 60% of moral decadence in our society is as a result of negative influence of the internet. Pornography has eaten deep like a cankerworm in the lives of our teenage youths and that is one of the reason why our generation cannot boast of having virgins before marriage. It is said now that ‘virginity is the lack of opportunity’, and no longer something our fore father’s were proud of in their wives to be. Internet fraud and hooliganism are also a course learnt on the Web as everybody is in a haste to make money. They put in valuable time and resources to defraud a counterpart on the other end and make away with their money. They call that brainy and see the act as a normal way of life. Some even go to the extent of using diabolical means to extort money from their so called clients not minding the repercussion. The family has alot to do in this aspect because there is dignity they say in hardwork.
Everybody is in a haste to make it in life, everybody wants to be rich, everybody wants to pass, everybody wants good things of life yet no one wants to undergo any stress nor make any sacrifice to get them. As one of our singers will say, ‘they wan go heaven but they no wan die’. Nothing in life comes easy. It takes alot of patience and hard work to achieve. Some of our youths go into Internet fraud, the popular one they call ‘yahoo_yahoo’, prostitution, armed robbery, scamming and so many you can mention. In the days of our fathers, the rudiments of success they will say lies in hard work. As a farmer, you have to plough the land, wet it, plant and be patient for it to yield before harvesting. You don’t jump one stage for the other, they all work hand in hand. As a student, u have to read your books,pass your exams and then job will await you. As a labourer,you have to work hard because you have hopes of getting your wages at the close of the day. Same applies in all sectors of the labour force and so our youths should not be in a hurry to make money; hard work they say pays. The government in its role should also assist by providing jobs and seeing to it that they better the standard of living. The huge gap between the rich and the poor should be abridged.
==SOCIETAL BELIEFS, TABOOS AND HALLUCINATION:
This is another aspect that is really taking focus of our numerous youth of today. We are being told alot of things as we grow up that are practised in the olden days and has acted as a guide to their way of life. We are being threatened of failure if we by any means deviate from such practises. Alot of them are diabolical while some are just the norms, culture and tradition of the people. We are advancing in age and technology and new approach to solving the same problems of so many years have been deployed. Just as it took time and alot of conviction for our ancient parents to accept western education, it still applies till this day. Most of our parents still adopt crude means to proffer solutions to their problems even when you offer to assist them with a much faster means. It has in one way or the other limited our focus because we see our parents as better than us to some extent and so we would not want to disobey them. Youths on the other hand has a role to play by making comparisons and choosing wisely.
Substance intake / consumption has been a threat to focus in life. Most of our youths consume opiates (heroin, hydrocodone (Vicodin), oxycodone (Oxycontin, Percocet), morphine), benzodiazepines (diazepam (Valium), alprazolam (Xanax), flunitrazepam (Rufilin), clonazepam (Klonopin), lorazepam (Ativan)), methamphetamine (meth), cocaine,alcohol, GHB, and nicotine for pleasure and become addicted to it. These drugs are referred to as “hard drugs” and have adverse effect on the body system especially when it is used outside a medical prescription. They get high and feel on top of the world ignoring the basics of what they look forward to achieving and wasting time alongside resources.
There are so many other reasons which we all can mention but in the course of putting up this article, I want to leave you to add up other factors yourself. Loosing focus has different dimensions as some factors which cannot be overlooked, tend to take you off your target a times but consistency is the key and bouncing back on your ground by putting up your head straight even when you have fallen is a great step to gaining back your focus in life.